The Asian Mystique
26 03 2008By Laya Rajan
They’re smart, they’re overachievers, and they’re bound to take over your school’s orchestra. That’s the general consensus of Asians. There is a wealth of stereotypes out there; everything from how strict the parents are, to how unathletic the children can be. From an Asian perspective, here’s the truth behind the veil.
Asians are smart. This is one of the most overused phrases when our generation thinks of Asia. This is the most irksome thing a person can hear. There’s no gene for intelligence. There are over two billion people on the Asian continent itself, not including the millions of people of Asian descent elsewhere. Every single one cannot be, and certainly is not, brilliant. We’re not any more intelligent than any other ethnic group.
The secret lies in our upbringing. In Asian countries, during our parents’ time, everything was radically different from the way it is here in America. No one lived in a commodious environment. My grandparents were in their 20s at the time of India’s independence. They worked hard, harder than anyone could imagine, supporting their families. My parents understood that to make a better life for themselves, they would have to search out every opportunity and exploit it to its fullest. The only way to do that was through education. The learning system in Asian countries is very different from here in America. While we are playing with blocks and taking naps, over in Asia, children are memorizing their multiplication tables up to 12. Education is a very strong priority in Asian households. Thus, the children work hard to attain academic excellence.
Asians are un-athletic nerds. This makes me laugh. While this may have been true several years ago, in today’s world, Asia is a strong contender in global sports. It’s not evident, because Americans don’t generally hear about the sports in which Asians excel. China especially is producing athletes that are the class of the field. At the last World Gymnastics Championships, China won both the men’s and women’s team competitions. The reigning men’s all-around champion is Chinese, and four out of the top six finishers in the all-around competition were Asian. While people don’t take pingpong seriously as an Olympic sport, Asian pingpong players train as hard as anyone else, and should in no way be considered a lesser achievement. They are considered some of the greatest players of all time, with incredibly impressive resumes. Contrary to what one might believe, athletes from China and India excel in weight lifting. In addition, in figure skating today, Chinese pairs and Japanese singles skaters are the athletes to beat in a sport traditionally ruled by Russia, Europe, and America.
“I got a 97. I am so dead.” Ah, yes: The myth of pushy parents. If someone were to ask me if my parents were pushy, my answer would have to be most emphatically no. Asian parents are not pushy; they’re just incredibly involved in what their kids do. While it is true that anything below an A is considered an abysmal grade by Asian standards, the ideology is not, “either get a 100 or we disown you,” or “until every subject is perfect, you will sit in your room and do nothing but study.” It’s more like, “Get a good grade in everything, or else you’ll have to work harder.”
When I hear people saying that they get MySpace and post pictures on the Web without their parents’ knowledge, or throw parties and go out with their friends behind their parents’ backs, I am truly astounded. It’s unimaginable for me not to tell my parents what I’m doing and what grades I get on every single test, not because my parents would kill me if I didn’t, but because that’s the way I’ve been raised.
I have a laundry list of activities that I’ve been pursuing since a very young age. I’ve also tried just about everything under the sun. Dance, check. Singing, check. Instruments of all descriptions, yup. Gymnastics, swimming, ice skating, horseback riding. You name it, I’ve done it. And why did my parents put a slightly ungainly 5-year old into so many activities? Don’t be fooled. My parents didn’t have any visions of me being the next Yo-yo Ma or Nadia Comaneci. They just wanted me to have every possible opportunity. Every parent wants to ensure their child succeeds, with whatever their definition of success is.
This mentality is exemplified in all immigrant groups, not just Asians. My parents’ generation came to this country with very little, and worked their way up to be able to live the way they dreamed of. They wanted us to start off on a better plane of life than they did, reaching higher. For Asians, the only surefire way they know is education. To this end, every piece of homework has to be done with a sharpened pencil, every line measured, and penmanship exquisite. But there is no “you failed” mentality when something goes wrong, rather a “what did we do wrong together” question. Our parents just want the very best for us. They want to see what we can accomplish that they weren’t able to.
I love my iPod. I love to dance. I can’t wait for the next episode of “The Amazing Race.” I’m just another teenager, but I come with a tag that reads: Asian-American Overachiever. A-plus or bust. The tag is acquired so easily, and it sticks even more easily.
Living up to that label, however, is a different story. But the way I’ve grown up has taught me valuable life lessons. I’ve been taught to dream deep and reach high, because nothing is impossible. You can achieve anything if you want it badly enough, because if it wasn’t possible, you wouldn’t want it so badly.
With a book in hand and violin strapped to my back, I am making my journey towards success. And you know what? I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Laya Rajan is a senior at Yorktown High School and the opinion editor of its student newspaper, The Voice.
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